For forever, people have been giving IQ the foremost consideration in being a determinant of success and academic achievements. Intelligence quotient is one of the factors but not the only factor. Moreover, recent researches have identified that emotional intelligence or emotional quotient (EQ) is more important in determining the academic achievements of a person.
In today’s world, we need a lot of skills to be successful. Interaction with the environment, reciprocating to the clues suitably, adjusting ourselves despite many stressors, connecting with people, growing and learning different things from our surroundings are some of the most important factors that determine the success of a person. More or less, all of these things count in emotional intelligence. If you want to grow academically and want to improve your emotional intelligence, here is what you have to know about it.
Kendra Cherry, a psychologist and a researcher, came up with five components of emotional intelligence in 2018. These are widely recognized by other researchers in the field. Here is a brief description of all of them.
Self-awareness is the knowledge about one’s own emotions, feelings, and how these emotions affect one’s mental state and actions. In simple words, it is about having an understanding of one’s own feelings. People don’t always know why are they feeling a certain way and how can they overcome it. This affects their performance in every area of their life. As a student, if you are not emotionally aware of yourself, you might not recognize how to control your feelings that might affect your concentration. This is just one example. Self-awareness helps in identifying the problems and then working on them. it is also about knowing your weaknesses and strengths. Once you know them, you are more likely to overcome the problems and perform better.
Self-regulation is the next stage. It is about regulating your feelings and emotions once you have gained an understanding of them. It helps you to keep yourself composed even in adverse situations and you stay focused on your tasks. Theoretically, it is about managing oneself in the presence of conflict, regulating emotions, adapting to changing circumstances in the healthiest way, and not being very rigid. If you have this quality, you are more resilient and thus manage to perform well even at times when the situation is not in your favor.
This is about understanding others’ emotions along with one’s own emotions. An emotionally intelligent person understands the needs of others and reacts appropriately in different situations. It is also about maintaining healthy relationships with others, interacting with people, listening to them actively, building rapport, and leadership qualities. Nowadays, success depends upon all these qualities more than on intelligence. If you have good social skills, you are most likely to have a healthy mind and that is the requirement if you want to be a high achiever.
Empathy includes knowing other person’s feelings and experiences by being able to relate to them. This comes with exposure and experiences. The one who has empathy is more likely to act appropriately in different situations, make good relationships with others, and fulfill the requirement of every environment just as the people want it. This, you can call, an extension of the above-mentioned component of emotional intelligence. This quality makes a person most suitable for teamwork and leadership roles. Big companies are looking to hire employees who have this quality at big positions.
This is about the intrinsic motivation that comes in a person from self-awareness and self-actualization. An emotionally intelligent person is motivated from the inside instead of from any outside source. For instance, it is not about thirty minutes of motivation that you might get after listening to a speech or success story. It comes from understanding one’s needs, interests, and goals. An intrinsically motivated person is committed to a cause and does not let anything keep them from achieving it. It is one of the most important components of emotional intelligence that determines academic achievement.